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The Great Divorce

November 30, 2023 00:43:21 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about a looming feminist movement called “The Great Divorce”. Plus, they offer up advice on how to manage a shifting friendship dynamic, and how to avoid keeping track of family gift ideas.

Do you have any advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or follow us on Instagram @howtobefinepod. And if you haven’t already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

Sources:

The great divorce – https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8joNFfe/

Decenter men summer – https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8jEv7gv/

Mel Hamlet decentering men – https://www.tiktok.com/@melhamlett/video/7272349102459866401?_r=1&_t=8fpYVdiBQUt

Shar Henley on king baby – tiktok.com/@sharhenley_/video/7236168121772526894?_t=8fpVerh8qXG&_r=1

https://charliestoolbox.medium.com/what-happened-once-i-decentered-men-54a36bd2d9db

https://news.umich.edu/exactly-how-much-housework-does-a-husband-create/

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/03/14/chapter-6-time-in-work-and-leisure-patterns-by-gender-and-family-structure/

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220511-why-women-file-for-divorce-more-than-men

https://yougov.co.uk/society/articles/34980-women-are-still-much-more-likely-have-do-most-coup

https://web.stanford.edu/~mrosenfe/Rosenfeld_gender_of_breakup.pdf

https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/divorce-statistics/#sources_section

https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles.html

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9434459/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3478728/

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/11/06/marriage-and-cohabitation-in-the-u-s/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352250X21001299#bib9

Seasonal Affective Disorder

November 23, 2023 00:41:30 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share surprising facts about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Plus, they offer up advice on how to make less noise as an upstairs neighbor, and how to cope with a new work schedule.

Sources:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20364651

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/seasonal-affective-disorder

https://medlineplus.gov/genetics/condition/seasonal-affective-disorder/#:~:text=Seasonal%20affective%20disorder%20occurs%20in,of%20people%20with%20bipolar%20disorder.

https://www.bu.edu/articles/2019/seasonal-affective-disorder/

https://psychnews.psychiatryonline.org/doi/full/10.1176/pn.39.14.0390031

https://medicine.yale.edu/psychiatry/research/programs/clinical_people/winter/

https://newsone.com/4418543/seasonal-depression-seasonal-affective-disorder-black-people/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23820095/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/496414

https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/01/12/seasonal-affective-disorder-depression-symptoms/

https://www.healthline.com/health-news/seasonal-affective-disorder-can-affect-you-in-the-summer-too

https://abcnews.go.com/Health/longer-dangerous-heat-waves-raises-concerns-increased-seasonal/story?id=101953058

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/seasonal-affective-disorder-summer-1.6939208

https://www.ciphr.com/advice/seasonal-affective-disorder-at-work/#:~:text=You%20may%20find%20that%20SAD,while%20absence%20levels%20may%20rise.

https://cbsaustin.com/news/local/seasonal-depression-could-lead-to-violent-tendencies

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8154709/

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20170314-the-town-that-built-a-mirror-to-catch-the-sun

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/seasonal-affective-disorder-mosaic/519495/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/shining-a-light-on-winter-depression

https://www.cuimc.columbia.edu/news/how-fight-seasonal-depression

https://www.va.gov/washington-dc-health-care/stories/combating-seasonal-affective-disorder/

Mini-Ep: Not Washing and Dopamenus

November 16, 2023 00:27:41 Comments Off

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Not Washing and Dopamenus. Plus, Kristen creates her own dopamenu, and listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who regrets giving her children culturally insensitive names.

Dopamenus

November 9, 2023 00:46:58 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about how to create a dopamenu, and when it may be useful. Plus, they offer up advice on dealing with a life-changing medical diagnosis, and maximizing limited free time.

Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @jolentag, @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven’t already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

Sources:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6WCkTwW6xg

https://www.adhdrewired.com/about/

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/22/style/self-care/adhd-youtube.html

https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/childhood-adhd/adhd-dopamine

https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adhd-dopamine#causes

https://www.bustle.com/wellness/dopamenu-productivity-dopamine-menu

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jama/fullarticle/184547

https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/imaging-study-shows-dopamine-dysfunction-is-not-the-main-cause-of-attention-deficit-hyperactivity

Not Washing

November 2, 2023 00:38:47 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about showering, and how much of it is actually necessary. Plus, they offer up advice to a parent who regrets giving their children culturally insensitive names, and a letter writer who is getting ready for a fresh start on life.

Sources:

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/showering-daily-is-it-necessary-2019062617193

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2020/07/hygiene-is-overrated/612235/

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/09/26/917019912/in-the-era-of-hygiene-clean-author-makes-the-case-for-showering-less

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/people-without-underarm-protection/

https://www.cosmo.ph/kloka/korean-beauty/koreans-odorless-a4575-20230407

https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20121129-the-origins-of-bathhouse-culture-around-the-world#:~:text=Much%20later%2C%20around%20300%20BC,visited%20by%20rich%20and%20poor.

https://www.salon.com/2007/11/30/dirt_on_clean/

https://www.medicaldaily.com/brief-history-bathing-importance-hygiene-ancient-romes-sophisticated-showers-modern-364826

https://www.metmuseum.org/toah/hd/bath/hd_bath.htm

https://www.theworldofchinese.com/2021/07/bathing-in-ancient-times/

https://healthfacts.blog/2017/09/25/how-often-did-people-bathe-in-ancient-times/

https://www.verywellhealth.com/evolution-of-personal-hygiene-1958874

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2542893/

https://www.voanews.com/a/science-health_historian-explores-evolution-personal-hygiene/6187950.html

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/weather/2023/08/22/hurricane-hilary-rises-water-level-lake-mead/70654623007/

https://www.thewaterscrooge.com/blog/how-many-gallons-of-water-does-a-shower-use#:~:text=The%20average%20American%20shower%20uses,gpm)%20(7.9%20lpm)

https://www.today.com/shop/how-often-shower-t248281

Mini Ep: Marathons and Brain Tapping

October 26, 2023 00:27:29 Comments Off

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on Marathons and Brain Tapping. Plus, listeners share some additional tips for a letter writer who recently went through a breakup, and another who is concerned about not having shared interests with her partner.

Do you have an advice question for us? Email us at kristenandjolenta@gmail.com, or tweet us @kristenmeinzer, or @howtobefinepod. And if you haven’t already, please join our How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) Facebook community! https://www.facebook.com/groups/kristenandjolenta

Brain Tapping

October 19, 2023 00:40:50 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the history and potential benefits of brain tapping. Plus, they offer up advice on how to get the most out of therapy, and how to adjust to an unforeseen life change.

Sources:

https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/video/7036902110285352198?q=brain%20tapping%20eft&t=1691517241661

https://www.tiktok.com/@kaityneiswonger/video/7020212324610903302?q=sleep%20tapping&t=1691516953542

https://www.tiktok.com/@thetappingsolution/video/7163406927404305710?lang=en&q=brain%20tapping%20for%20sleep&t=1691517356191

https://www.tiktok.com/@thetappingsolution/video/7172362075635830062?q=tapping%20for%20sleep&t=1691534858065

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_Freedom_Techniques

https://www.thrivingnow.com/history-of-tapping-eft/

https://www.everydayhealth.com/wellness/eft-tapping/guide/

https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/brain-tapping-sleep

https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/health-fitness/brain-tapping-for-sleep

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259548223_The_current_status_of_energy_psychology_Extraordinary_claims_with_less_than_ordinary_evidence

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23364126/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6381429/

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27642676/

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1744388122001219?via%3Dihub

https://www.thrivingnow.com/history-of-tapping-eft/

https://www.tappingwithdani.com/history-of-eft-tapping

Marathons

October 12, 2023 00:40:30 Comments Off

On this episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta talk about the shocking side effects of marathon running. Plus, they offer up advice on how to explain the value of money to a young child, and how to make a relationship work without shared interests.

Sources:

https://www.history.com/news/why-is-a-marathon-26-2-miles

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marathon

https://marathonhandbook.com/how-many-people-have-run-a-marathon/

https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/celebs-who-run-marathons-w446410/

https://www.distractify.com/p/why-does-running-a-marathon-make-you-poop

https://www.iflscience.com/marathon-runners-poop-themselves-an-extraordinary-amount-this-is-why-66799

https://www.businessinsider.com/olympics-runner-yohann-diniz-poop-problems-why-marathons-are-bad-2016-8

https://www.insider.com/woman-stopped-9-porta-potties-during-marathon-got-personal-record-2021-11

https://www.insider.com/marathoner-pooped-pants-mile-7-down-legs-photo-fast-pace-2021-12

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6139872/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3119133/

https://www.bswhealth.com/blog/much-running-bad-heart

https://ec.europa.eu/research-and-innovation/en/horizon-magazine/marathon-runners-produce-proteins-linked-heart-attacks

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/31/well/move/does-marathon-running-increase-the-risk-of-cardiac-arrest.html

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4792989/#!po=76.6667

https://waseda.elsevierpure.com/en/publications/marathon-running-alters-the-dna-base-excision-repair-in-human-ske

https://marathonhandbook.com/is-running-a-marathon-bad-for-you/

https://bjsm.bmj.com/content/38/4/498

https://www.runnersworld.com/uk/health/injury/a30056593/common-injury-marathon-runners/

https://prophysiotherapy.co.uk/blog/common-marathon-injuries/

https://www.memorialhermann.org/services/specialties/rockets-sports-medicine-institute/sports-science-tips/tips-for-runners/marathon-injuries#:~:text=Hip%20pain%20and%20pain%20along,require%20time%20off%20from%20running.

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-022-13844-4

https://marathonhandbook.com/8-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-run-marathon/

Mini-Ep: TV Dining and Skychology

October 5, 2023 00:22:45 Comments Off

On this mini episode of How to Be Fine, Kristen and Jolenta share listener feedback on TV Dining and Skychology. Plus, they reveal the results from a survey posted on the How to Be Fine private Facebook community.